Many transphobic people use “science” to disprove trans and nonbinary people, but many of them are uneducated in that area. Science is actually advancing rapidly, proving that gender and sex are not the same. The gender spectrum has even been proven, and is being used in many sociology and psychology professionals. Here are just a few resources that cover this:
Medical Daily National Geographic Scientific American Spectrum South
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(Image from this article!) The Asexuality spectrum is something that most people don't know about. Most people think of someone that's asexual as someone that doesn't experience sexual attraction, but it's more complicated. An asexual person's attraction can vary immensely, especially when considering that their romantic attraction also play a role. Just look at this diagram that shows the asexuality spectrum. The amount of asexual orientations is much larger than most people know. There's hetero, homo, bi, pan, and aromantic asexual people. There's also grey-asexual (or greysexual/grey-a) and demisexual, which can also have one of many romantic orientations. Some people may know what genderflux mean, but a lot of people don't. Gendeflux is a gender identity where the intensity fluctuates. It is often times seen as a form of gender fluid, between a gender identity and agender. However, this is not always the case. For example, a genderflux person could feel 80% female one day, and 30% female the next day. A gender fluid person's gender identity, on the other hand, is the gender identity itself fluctuating.
The blog is back! I just wanted to quickly say some things about the site.
1. My school unblocked my blog, meaning I can now work on it again! They blocked it around September 29, but they just unblocked it! Hopefully this explains the lack of content recently (I'm also just really busy...) 2. I'm finally getting around to optimizing the site! I got rid of the unorganized and unappealing home page, and I'm currently designing a new one! Pronouns. Everyone uses them. Whether you use she, he, they, ze, or even it, you still use them on a daily basis. However, there are… certain… people that don’t respect people’s pronouns as they should. Generally, this applies to the trans* community. It doesn’t matter if it’s parents, teachers, or friends; they should still respect your pronouns. This is to discuss why.
First, let’s talk about why someone that’s trans changes their pronouns (even though it’s kinda obvious.) When someone changes their pronouns, it’s usually when they start their transition from their gender assigned to them at birth to the gender they identify as. To understand the point of changing pronouns, we need to understand the point of transitioning. Transitioning is most likely done due to gender dysphoria, which is caused by your physical body and gender identity not lining up. Although it may seem that simple, social matters also tie into dysphoria. Now, back to pronouns. When somebody uses pronouns that don’t line up with your gender identity, it can (but may not) cause a feeling of dysphoria. This is why it’s important to respect pronouns. Dysphoria can cause many negative actions, such as self-harm, depression, or even suicide. Lesson: ALWAYS respect pronouns. You never know what’ll happen if you don’t. So if you know me, you're probably wondering why I'm writing about me coming out. "Erin's the most gay person I know! Why would they need to write about their coming out?" Well, I'm not actually out to any family members. However, I did come out when I was identifying as bisexual. Let's begin!
It was a Tuesday evening at my grandma's house, and we (My Step-Dad, Mom, Grandma, Cousin, and Uncle) were playing a game of Skip-Bo at the kitchen table. I had been trying to build up courage to come out for weeks, and I finally got tired of the stress. During our conversation, I just quietly said "also, I'm bi." Then, for a split second, everything around me froze. I felt this terrible feeling overcome my body. It felt dreadful, but really hot at the same time. I couldn't breathe, and I felt extremely healthy. I began shaking, and I started to tear up. Then I started to calm down, like everything suddenly just washed away. That moment, however, felt like it lasted for an eternity. I'm pretty sure that was my first anxiety attack, with more following in the future, but that's something to discuss in another post. When I said I was bi, my grandma didn't understand what I meant (and probably still doesn't.) Everyone else just said things like "okay" or "cool." Honestly it wasn't the reaction I was expecting, but I'm glad that I didn't get the negative reaction that I was expecting. Although it was (literally) the most horrifying moment of my life, it's something that any LGBTQ+ person will go through (unless they decide not to.) I know that I made coming out sound scary, but that's because it is. However, I don't want this to turn anyone off from coming out. Everyone's experiences are different, so this might not be the same for you. I just wanted to let you know what my personal experience was and what you might experience if you're like me and have anxiety. Definitions:
Heteronormativity - The idea that heterosexuality is the norm and that everyone is straight unless otherwise stated, constantly reinforced through societal norms and the media. Cisnormativity - The same as heteronormativity, except for the assumption that everyone is cis-(identifying with their biological sex) unless otherwise stated. Before I start, I just wanted to state that statistically, them majority of people are heterosexual and cisgender. However, this doesn't keep a hetero- or cis-normative society from being a bad thing. I'm not saying that a homo- or trans-normative society would be a good thing, either. It's just that a society that focuses on only the majority can cause many problems, such as minorities feeling under-represented or poorly treated. One issue with a hetero- or cis-normative society is that if you're not straight or cis, then you have to go through your entire life constantly coming out if you don't want people to assume you're straight. Although being called straight isn't an insult, just as being called gay isn't an insult, it can make an LGBTQ+ person feel less valid. It can cause them to see their sexual orientation or gender identity as inferior (or less valid) to being straight or cis. Another issue that comes from a heteronormative society is the whole bathroom issue. Although you could argue that the bathrooms refer to biological sex, most people would just say that the bathroom signs represent gender. This can (and does) cause issues for the transgender community. An issue that I've personally experienced is when someone assumes that you're straight, even though there are numerous signs saying otherwise. Hey! I just started a new LGBTQ+ Forum! If you're interested, head over to https://echonotgecko.wixsite.com/gaycurious to check it out!
Thanks! (Also the way the text automatically formats when you write a blog post on here is really weird) Hello! I'm currently working on my end-of-year exam in English; an essay! My essay is about the struggles that the LGBTQ+ youth go through daily. I'm just gonna share some of the info that I've found:
78% to 86% of LGBTQ+ students experience verbal harassment, 25% of LGBTQ+ students have been attacked, 1/3 of trans students have been verbally harassed by staff, and 5% of trans students have been physically assaulted by staff. If an LGBTQ+ student's family isn't supportive, they're 8 times more likely to commit suicide and they're 6 times more likely to suffer depression and anxiety. Families that aren't supportive are the number one cause of LGBTQ+ homelessness. 20% to 40% of homeless youth are LGBTQ+, and many suffer from PTSD, depression, and Anxiety. 62% of homeless LGBTQ+ youth have attempted suicide. When LGBTQ+ students were asked what the most important problems to them were, the top three were non-accepting families (26%,) School/Bullying Issues (21%,) and fear of being out or open (18%.) 1/3 of all LGBTQ+ youth feel that they have no adults to talk to about their problems. 1/3 of LGBTQ+ youth say their families are not accepting, and 42% say their communities are not accepting. 92% of all LGBTQ+ youth say they hear negative comments about being LGBTQ+. Sources: https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/lgbt/news/2013/05/29/64583/3-barriers-that-stand-between-lgbt-youth-and-healthier-futures/ thinkprogress.org/new-report-highlights-unique-struggles-faced-by-lgbt-youth-450410c5f2ac/ I'm writin' a short story! I've finished parts one and two, so I figured why not share it on here as a preview? Part 1
“Ashlynne! Get up! Your gonna be late for school!” “Oh god. Just hearing that name makes me want to get out of bed even less,” Ash thinks as they lazily slip out of bed. They go through their morning routine, getting dressed and brushing their teeth. As Ash walks down the stairs, their dad turns toward them. “You’re wearing ‘that’ on the first day of school? You look like a boy! You could probably pass as one if you cut your hair.” their dad said, then turning back to the television.Ash silently slips by the kitchen, grabbing the black bookbag and exiting the house through the side door. They begin walking down the sidewalk, ignoring the unapproving looks from the elderly neighbors. “Hey, Ash!” shouted a familiar voice. Ash turns to see their friend Emery running in the same direction. “So, how’d it go?” Emery excitedly asks. “I… kinda… didn’t say anything…” Ash quietly replies. “Oh, okay,” Emery replies, now calming down. “So when are you going to tell them? Are you still nervous? I told my family, and they were perfectly fine with it!” exclaimed Emery, trying to lighten the mood “Listen, your parents aren’t right-wing extremists like mine. Your parents are rad. My parents… mine are just lame.” Ash says, kicking a rock off of the sidewalk and into the road. “I’m not trying to pressure you into telling them or anything, I’m just telling you that you need a plan. Being gay or trans is one thing, but being genderqueer is a whole other animal,” Emery quietly says, the cheerfulness slowly leaving their voice. Ash drops their bag and falls to their knees, beginning to cry. Small tears slowly hit the sidewalk, each showing a small reflection of the pain that Ash was feeling. Ash collects themself, picks up their bag, and stands up. “You gonna be okay?” Emery asks as they help Ash off of the ground. “Yeah,” Ash says as they continue walking to school. Part 2 After a day of being bullied and misgendered, Ash and Emery leave the school and head home. “So how was it?” Emery asked, looking over at Ash. “It was okay. Some people were okay with calling me Ash, but there were some teachers that insisted on calling me by my birth name. Oh, and don’t even get me started on pronouns!” Ash says, rolling their eyes. As they arrive at Ash’s house, Emery quickly says goodbye and continues walking home. Ash opens the front door, only to find their dad on the phone, almost as if he was waiting for them to return. “Ashlynne, why are people at school calling you ‘Ash?’” He says as he hangs up the phone. “It’s just a stupid nickname that just kinda stuck with me, that’s all…” Ash says as they look down at the floor. “Well, it needs to stop. We didn’t name you Ash, we named you Ashlynne. Ash is a boy’s name. Last time I checked you were our daughter, and that’s how it is,” he sternly said as he turned and walked toward the stairs. Ash, on the verge of tears, looks over at their mom in the living room. Ash and their mom make eye contact, and it was too much. They both began to cry silently, internally. Ash’s mom had always suspected something with Ash, and she knew that what their father said had hurt them. She walked over to Ash, kissed them on the forehead, and went up the stairs. “That sounds rough, I hope things get better for you at home,” Emery says as they walk to school with Ash the next day. “Thanks. I have this weird feeling, though…” Ash said, unintentionally making a slightly puzzled expression. “A weird feeling? About what?” Emery asked, completely lost. “I don’t know… it’s about my mom. I uh… I feel like she might know… about me,” Ash says nervously. “Maybe you’re just paranoid? You’ve been stressin’ pretty hard about this stuff recently,” Emery said, once again trying to lift the mood of the conversation. The rest of the walk to school was painfully silent. When they enter the school building, Ash and Emery notice a new poster on the “Club Bulletin.” They begin reading it, and their expressions brighten. “They’re forming a Gay-Straight Alliance? This is awesome! I’ve always wanted to be in a GSA!” Ash shouted, pointing at the poster covered in rainbows and pride flags. “Now you show your true colors,” Emery jokingly said. Ash hadn’t shown this much energy in public since they were in elementary school. Ash quickly looked around at the other students and instantly went quiet. Ash quickly wrote the club’s details in a notebook and then rushed to class to avoid being late. Emery sighs and walks to class. “Did you talk to the president of the GSA?” Emery asked Ash as they walk home. “Yeah, the first meeting is tomorrow. You don’t have to register in advance, so you can come with me if you want,” Ash said in a cheerful tone. “That’d be rad,” Emery replies as they continue walking. If you're Trans FtM, MtF, MtG, FtG, or any other transgender identity, then you may consider changing your name. Personally, my birth name causes dysphoria, as it is a very masculine name. When picking your name, there are a few factors that you should take into account.
First, if you're FtM or MtF transgender, you could ask your parents what they would have named you if you were born as the opposite sex. If you identify as a non-binary gender, then this might not help. However, if you're trans and identify as a binary gender, then this could give you a good idea of what your name could be. Second, If you're non-binary, try picking a gender neutral name. Depending on where you live, some names may not be considered gender neutral, even though they may be in other cultures. If you want to pass as male or female, however, do not choose a gender neutral name. It could lead to people questioning your gender. Third, you could look at baby naming websites. This can help you get an idea of what names to consider. It may not help much, but it's there and it could help a bit. You could also consider your background culture and heritage, if you would like to honor your cultural background. Try out the names. Say the names out loud to see how they flow through sentences, and consider any possible nicknames There are a lot of people out there that believe some of the many misconceptions that exist for people that identify as Non-Binary. I'm going to go over some of these myths.
1. "Being Non-Binary Is Just To Be Political!" Do people go around saying that being male or female is political? No. So why say that identifying as a non-binary is a political stance? People that identify as non-binary aren't constantly trying to "go against the norm," we're just trying to live as who we really are. 2. "Non-Binary People Don't Experience Transgender Oppression" This one is just ridiculous, and flat out wrong. Surveys have proven that non-binary identifying people experience more harassment and assault than binary transgender people. If anyone says this, they have no idea what they're talking about. 3. "You're Just Following the Trends, Or It's Just a Fad" Many people believe that because of the growing awareness of the non-binary community, people think that it's just a bunch of people looking for attention. For a non-binary person, "choosing" to be male or female isn't an option. 4. "You're a New Concept" A lot of people in the U.S. today think that if they've never head of it, then it's a new concept. However, many societies have recognized non-binary people, and being non-binary has existed for all of human history. 5. "You're Confused About Your Gender" If somebody says this, than they're most likely just confused themselves. Non-binary people aren't confused, they're just not male or female. It's okay to be confused. However, it's not okay to invalidate how someone else identifies because you don't understand their gender identity. Androgyne, Adrogyny, or Androgynous gender is often seen as a blend of male and female, or a blend of masculine attributes and feminine attributes. It can also be seen as somewhere in between. However, you've probably heard me use the term "androgynous" if you've ever read any of my work. The definitions above might not fit into where I put it, and that's because I don't really use the term to describe my gender identity itself; but rather, to describe a person's appearance as neither masculine or feminine (or a combination of both.) I figured that this might clear up any confusion on my previous posts.
I know I've already written about gender fluidity, but this is going to be a bit different. I've been talking to a friend online that also happens to be gender fluid, and they've explained to me how they go about identifying in this way.
"Well, I feel like there are a few big misconceptions with genderfluidity. First off, my pronouns /change/, from day to day. On Monday I’m female, 'she', on Tuesday I might be male, 'he', on Wednesday, I’m agendered, 'them'. I’ll switch around my pronouns, just like I change my gender. Though, if you can’t tell what gender I am on a day, I’d like to be called “them”. One issue for me, personally, is 'coming out' to my friends and family. I worry that they won’t believe it’s a real gender, or they wont use my pronouns for that day. Another issue I can see is the idea of your gender on a given day being reflected as that genders stereotypical representation. Aka, I might be female but I will want to be masculine on that day. I may become male at a point but want to dress feminine. I represent myself as masculine most of the time, but that doesn’t mean I’m always feeling male. The idea that genderfluid people have no dysphoria is complete bull crap. On my female days, I want to appear very female, which is easy enough. But, on my male days? I’m FtG(female to genderfluid), and I have a very womanly body shape, unluckily. I don’t just suck it up and say 'today will be a girl day, instead.' I can’t, that’s now how it works. Some days I /feel/ like a different gender, just like how trans people feel like the opposite(of the binary) gender. If I’m feeling male, I will feel dysphoria like any FtM would feel. I also see issues with people saying there isn’t more than three genders(female, male, and non-binary) or even that there’s only two genders. I think another misconception is that to be genderfluid you have to switch between /all/ genders, not just a few. Genderfluid can mean many things, like with ME, I change from female(my at birth gender), male, agendered, demiboy, demigirl, and bigendered. Though, you can be gendefluid and /only/ switch from male to female at different times. That’s my main plan, though if I’m looking expressly male(bound chest, guy clothes, looking masculine) I’d prefer to be called male, if I’m clearly female on day(makeup, dress, heels or flats) I’d like to be called she. Though, I’d never be angry or upset at being called they/them, since that is the most appropriate set of pronouns to fit me at any given moment. Though, with close friends, I’ll sometimes say like, 'I’m having a male day' or I’ll say 'I’m goin’ with ‘she’ today. Also, genderfluid may differ from person to person, so just remember I’m only /one/ of the many genderfluid folks out there! ^w^" - Dani (@FloofyBrightBab) So, I feel a bit differently about my appearance and dysphoria as gender fluid (I've written about my dysphoria here!) I would really like to look androgynous, as stated in previous posts, but I'm MtG. I would like to look less masculine, and sometimes trying to identify as something other than male when you look like me will get you weird reactions. I usually fluctuate between Male, Demiboy, Agender, and Bigender. My gender is mostly demiboy, but (obviously) it varies. I think that people need to realize that being gender fluid is real, and that not every gender fluid person feels the same way. Thanks for reading, and thanks to Dani for talking about this with me! Agender is also called genderblank[2], genderfree, genderless, gendervoid[3], non-gendered, or null gender[4]. Agender is an identity under the nonbinary and transgender umbrella terms. Agender individuals find that they have no gender identity, although some define this more as having a gender identity that is neutral.
There is little agreement about the difference between terms such as agender, genderless, non-gender, gender neutral, and neutrois. These terms are often used interchangeably, or defined differently by individual writers in ways that don't necessarily match the self-definitions of others using those terms. It is often said that non-gender or genderlessness is the experience of having no gender identity at all, whereas gender neutral or neutrois is the experience of having a gender identity, a gender identity which is not male or female, but neutral. However, these statements don't match the experiences of everyone who has taken up these identities as their own. This is a problem of a difference between word definitions that are prescriptivist (telling everyone how they should use a word, and saying that many people use it wrong) and descriptivist (describing how people have actually been using a word, without telling them to change). It can be difficult to describe and name a gender identity that involves a lack of inner gender identity. In order to do so, some people see the need to make new names for that gender identity, or to distinguish between different but similar genderless identities. A list of these names, in alphabetical order: anongender. "A gender that is unknown to you and others".[8] apogender. Coined by queerspike. "Greek prefix apo, meaning away from, separate, at the farthest point; a subset of agender in which you feel not only genderless but entirely removed from the concept of gender."[9] agenderfluid. Coined by pleurocarpus. Basically agender, but also genderfluid. Synonym cancegender.[10] agenderflux. Coined by perfectlybrokenbones. "Where you identify as agender but have fluctuations where you feel feminine or masculine but not male or female. ".[11] cancegender. coined by prideful-concerto. "An individual is agender as their “base” gender but experiences fluid/fluxing gender feelings in tandem with their emotions. These gender feelings may confuse or upset the individual and cause their emotional state to go haywire, which causes more gender changes."[12] Synonym agenderfluid. genderblank. As described by Damloz: Having no gender.[13] Also, as described by anonymous: "a gender so indescribable that the only thought one gets when trying to describe it is a blank space"[14] gendernull. As described by Baaphomett, "A gender like gendervoid but without the void."[15] gendervoid. As described by Baaphomett, "A gender consisting of the void (also/originally used to mean the same thing as genderless)."[16] librafluid. Coined by otterlyradical and pride-flags-for-us. "Mostly agender, but has a strong connection that fluctuates between masculinity and femininity."[17] null gender. Coined by dieselwolfe. "Undefinable, intangible, the uncreation of gender. Its taking everything everyone throws at you, saying male, female, pick one, pick this, pick that, and taking it in, only to expel it, poisonous crystals erupting from your skin, armor against those who don’t listen. A 'I don’t want a label because labels don’t fit but they help shut people up sometimes, so here have a label' gender label. A fall-back plan, a red herring to give people who can’t conceptualize the absence, void, nullification of gender. It is, and is not. All and none. Nonexistant but present."[18] oneirogender. Coined by anonymous. "Being agender, but having recurring fantasies or dreams of being a certain gender without the actual dysphoria or desire to actually be that gender day-to-day. e.g. oneiroboy, oneirogirl, oneirononbinary, etc."[19] Read in more detail here: https://nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/Agender (I'm too busy to actually write something right now) I'm gender fluid. This means that my gender identity fluctuates and changes. Some days I feel masculine, some days I feel more feminine. Some days, I just feel androgynous or agender. Here's the thing, though; a lot of people don't know what gender fluidity is.
Gender fluidity is a gender identity where your gender can vary from moment to moment. People that identify as Gender Fluid fall under the genderqueer, non-binary and transgender umbrella terms. However, being gender fluid can cause one to encounter problems that M2F or F2M transgender people don't. One thing that they encounter is people that have never heard of gender fluid, or even non-binary. This may cause people to think that they're just attention-seeking or trying to follow a "trend." This means that they just need to learn about it. You could try educating them, or just let them know that this is who you are and they can believe what they want to believe. You should never get overly-defensive, unless they're causing problems. Some Gender Fluid people experience dysphoria, as myself. This can be caused by looking overly masculine or feminine, while you feel like you should look more like the other. It can also be caused by not looking androgynous, even though you feel you should (This specifically is what causes my dysphoria.) The best thing to do is to just let them dress how they want, grow/cut their hair how they want, and let them wear whatever accessories or cosmetics they want. Demigender is an umbrella term for nonbinary gender identities that have a partial connection to a certain gender. This includes the partly female identity demigirl, and the partly male identity demiboy. There are other partial genders using the "demi-" prefix for the same reasons. For example, deminonbinary, demifluid, demiflux, and so on. Like non-binary, demigender is also an identity within itself, for people who feel connection to the concept of gender rather than certain genders. Being a demigender "is not dependent on how much (as in percentage) someone identities as one gender; it solely depends on if a person identifies as partially. For some, they may identify with two or more genders while others may not."[1]
( https://nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/Demigender ) I've been struggling with dysphoria.
Let me explain: I'm Non-Binary, and I really feel like I should look androgynous. I'm biologically male, and I'm almost 16. So I'm at that point where I'm looking more masculine than feminine. This REALLY bothers me, because on the days that I feel more feminine, I have to look at myself in the mirror and ask why I'm like this. I don't know what to do about it, and my parents and other family members don't even know that I'm not cisgender. It really hurts me to be hiding this, and the dysphoria is making it worse. I just don't have the courage to come out as Non-Binary, and it sucks. This was kinda short, but I needed to get this off of my chest... If you're curious about me at all, you've probably read the "details" tab at the bottom of the blog posts. However, that really doesn't give you much detail on who I am. Let's get sexuality and gender out of the way; I'm a demiboy + genderfluid, and I'm pansexual! There ya go! Here, have some flags: GenderfluidDemiboyPansexual I'm also a highschool sophomore in Ohio. It kinda stinks since most of the people in our area are conservative christians, but I live with it. (Can you tell I'm running out of things to write about?)
Thanks! You might be wondering why I'm now going by "Echo" instead of "Ben." Well, this is because I feel that the name "Ben" doesn't really fit me. It doesn't match my personality, and it definitely doesn't match my gender identity. I identify as Demiboy + Genderfluid, and I felt that the name "Ben" or "Benjamin" was just too masculine to match how I feel about myself. I'm also going by they/them/their pronouns for the same reasons; I just felt uncomfortable with my old name/pronouns.
I know it's kinda short, but I just wanted to let you all know about this! Thanks for reading! You might be confused on what I mean. You're probably thinking, "well, isn't that the same thing?" Well, yes and no. Here, let me explain.
Trans* is an umbrella term for anyone that doesn't identify with the gender that they were assigned with at birth, including non-binary genders. "But isn't that what 'Trans' is?" Kind of. Trans can mean the same thing, but is also specifically used as someone who is Transgender Male to Female or Transgender Female To Male. However, many people that are non-binary find Trans* to be offensive, so you should probably just stick to using Trans. So you've come out to your friends? Congratulations! Feel proud! Coming out takes a lot of courage and strength! However, some friends might not be very accepting and they might call you things like "weird" and "freak" or even vulgar words such as "f**" or "queer."
In my opinion, they shouldn't be your friend if they're not going to accept you for who they are. However, don't get ahead of yourself. Before you do anything else, you should try to educate them on your sexuality and/or gender. If you've tried before, then you could explain to them that if they won't accept you, then you can't be friends and that you're ending the friendship. Just remember not to put yourself in a dangerous situation and make sure there is someone there to support you. Feel free to discuss down below in the comments, I'd love to hear your opinions and what you would do in this situation! Before I start I just want to say that you need to consider your safety before coming out. Don't put yourself in any kind of potentially harmful situation!
Coming Out. The best, most fun, least stressful part of being LGBTQ+ (sarcasm intensifies.) I've been wanting to write about this topic, especially since I'm struggling with the decision to come out to my dad or not. However, this isn't about me! So, Many parents will go through phases such as shock, guilt, denial, and personal decision-making. This is all normal, so don't worry about it. if they react in these ways, just give them time. However, all families are different and everyone will react differently. When you come out, make sure you have somewhere to go or have someone to support you. You also want to make sure that you tell them when the time is right (make sure things are going well for your family before coming out.) You also need to be patient with parents, as some will need time to become accepting and they may need more time to educate themselves on the subject. You should also never come out during an argument, using your gender/sexuality as a weapon against them. You also want to make sure that they can educate themselves. A book or a counselor's number could help. JUST DON'T FEEL PRESSURED TO COME OUT. You don't have to! Some people never come out! Some parents will feel a sense of loss, feeling that they've lost their trust and overall relationship with their children. Give them time, as this is usually temporary. Reassure them that nothing about you has changed; you're the same person as the day before and the year before. You also need to assure them that this is who you are, and who you always have been. Tell them it's not their fault, and help them work through it. SOURCE: https://prideresourcecenter.colostate.edu/resources/coming-out-to-your-parents/ WHAT?! I know! Many people believe that the Bible is anti-LGBTQ+, but it really isn't! Some of this false belief is caused by inaccurate translations, cultural differences, and just plain nullification by the New Testament!
You're probably thinking, "Well then, super-smart genius, prove it!" In the story of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19, God sends two angels from heaven into the city. A few men try to forcefully gang-rape the two that God had sent. God then destroys the whole town due to their actions. Many people us this as proof that God is anti-gay, but they're missing the point entirely! In Ezekiel 16:49, the story of Sodom and Gomorrah is brought up. "Now this was the sin of your sister, Sodom. She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed, and unconcerned, and they did not help the poor or needy." So basically, if someone uses this as evidence that homosexuality is bad, they're missing the point of these verses entirely. *Stay up to date for part 2! SOURCE: http://www.upworthy.com/there-are-6-scriptures-about-homosexuality-in-the-bible-heres-what-they-really-say |
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