I know I've already written about gender fluidity, but this is going to be a bit different. I've been talking to a friend online that also happens to be gender fluid, and they've explained to me how they go about identifying in this way.
"Well, I feel like there are a few big misconceptions with genderfluidity. First off, my pronouns /change/, from day to day. On Monday I’m female, 'she', on Tuesday I might be male, 'he', on Wednesday, I’m agendered, 'them'. I’ll switch around my pronouns, just like I change my gender. Though, if you can’t tell what gender I am on a day, I’d like to be called “them”. One issue for me, personally, is 'coming out' to my friends and family. I worry that they won’t believe it’s a real gender, or they wont use my pronouns for that day. Another issue I can see is the idea of your gender on a given day being reflected as that genders stereotypical representation. Aka, I might be female but I will want to be masculine on that day. I may become male at a point but want to dress feminine. I represent myself as masculine most of the time, but that doesn’t mean I’m always feeling male. The idea that genderfluid people have no dysphoria is complete bull crap. On my female days, I want to appear very female, which is easy enough. But, on my male days? I’m FtG(female to genderfluid), and I have a very womanly body shape, unluckily. I don’t just suck it up and say 'today will be a girl day, instead.' I can’t, that’s now how it works. Some days I /feel/ like a different gender, just like how trans people feel like the opposite(of the binary) gender. If I’m feeling male, I will feel dysphoria like any FtM would feel. I also see issues with people saying there isn’t more than three genders(female, male, and non-binary) or even that there’s only two genders. I think another misconception is that to be genderfluid you have to switch between /all/ genders, not just a few. Genderfluid can mean many things, like with ME, I change from female(my at birth gender), male, agendered, demiboy, demigirl, and bigendered. Though, you can be gendefluid and /only/ switch from male to female at different times. That’s my main plan, though if I’m looking expressly male(bound chest, guy clothes, looking masculine) I’d prefer to be called male, if I’m clearly female on day(makeup, dress, heels or flats) I’d like to be called she. Though, I’d never be angry or upset at being called they/them, since that is the most appropriate set of pronouns to fit me at any given moment. Though, with close friends, I’ll sometimes say like, 'I’m having a male day' or I’ll say 'I’m goin’ with ‘she’ today. Also, genderfluid may differ from person to person, so just remember I’m only /one/ of the many genderfluid folks out there! ^w^" - Dani (@FloofyBrightBab) So, I feel a bit differently about my appearance and dysphoria as gender fluid (I've written about my dysphoria here!) I would really like to look androgynous, as stated in previous posts, but I'm MtG. I would like to look less masculine, and sometimes trying to identify as something other than male when you look like me will get you weird reactions. I usually fluctuate between Male, Demiboy, Agender, and Bigender. My gender is mostly demiboy, but (obviously) it varies. I think that people need to realize that being gender fluid is real, and that not every gender fluid person feels the same way. Thanks for reading, and thanks to Dani for talking about this with me!
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